Good advice according to Pooh

“As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen.”

“Sometimes the smallest things take the most room in your heart.”

“Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.”

“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”

“A day spent with you is my favourite day. So today is my new favourite day.”

and “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

Hang in there…love is everywhere. Just find one friend and you’ll be good to go.

Aloha,

Denise

Caring ~

To make a difference in someone’s life, you have to care. Caring and love never fail… let people see something in me/you that they want.  People don’t care how much you know; they want to know how much you care.

Psssst….I care about YOU!

I received a very sweet text message from a friend: “…Just wanted to see if I could score some time with you.” Wow, that made my heart sing! That’s a caring message and I accepted the invitation with love, joy and caring in my heart.

Today’s mantra:  Be myself. Have FUN. Stay present. Show I care.

Aloha,

Denise

Enjoy the journey ~ Find the balance

Blessings come with burdens. New, bigger house is nice and more to clean and organize. Two cars are liberating and come with more trips to  gas stations and car washes. New jobs teach new lessons, introduce new friends and require more meetings, conferences and day trips. Our feelings are favored and frustrating.

Maintain a good attitude and keep the blues at bay. Scanning photos from 1977 to about 2016 has my emotional roller-coaster on high alert and working overtime.  While I am so happy to digitize all the hard copies then send them to my friends and family, I get melancholy seeing my children as wee-ones, all the family trips, silly faces, hand-made clothes and costumes; it went by way too fast. I get weepy knowing they are only memories now.

T & E in mommy-made dresses in May 1997

We are in it to win it… have a “can-do” attitude.  I will get through these times. I will find the silver linings. I will never give up, ever. There are new things in my future..new friends, new photos and new adventures. I will find the balance: great memories and new futures.

Any thoughts?

Aloha,

Denise

Be winning and worldly!

Be winning and worldly and well-bred. Do things you love to do. Go out, explore, take chances, take risks, let your hair down (so to speak). Make new friends: just say “hello” to someone new. Strike up a conversation at the gym, in line at the grocery store, at the shuttle stop, over the fruit table. You don’t know where it will lead, but you have already established a common ground: you’re both there.

In my family we have a 3′ rule: if you’re within 3′ of us, we’ll say hello and talk to you. I invite you to share that rule.

For me, I’ve been doing this for the past six months, since moving to my new city {and repatriating}, and it’s a slow process. I will not give up! I’ve made a few connections and hope to nurture those relationships into real friendships.

Go out, be bold, make friends. Make this a great day, an awesome life…because it is.

Aloha,

Denise

Home is where the 💜 is.

From sea to shining sea, people love, move, live and explore. Some people stay in one place all their lives. Others travel and seek.  I love to travel; and I love living in different places. Initially change has its challenges, then becomes peaceful and comfortable.

One of my favorite things to do is learn languages, or at least catch phrases that I can use to strike up a conversation. I recently found myself the third in a group of three women. I asked about place of origin, one woman said Korea and the other said Russia/Azerbaijan. So…..as is my custom, I squealed out the phrases I know in Korean and Russian. We all had a good laugh and quickly were on level ground. A friendship began. My mantra: the more languages one speaks, the more friends one can make. Our “home” becomes bigger with more people in it.

As I walked down the hall in my building, I saw this new floor mat:

 

I’m inspired by others who are like-minded, open-minded and curious.  Indeed, home is where the heart is; and there is sweetness within.

Aloha,

Denise

 

 

Just a lot….

A lot on my plate, a lot on my mind. Trying to enjoy the FUN that I find.

The gym, the pool, the crazy flying cotton puffs; Five months really isn’t enough.

I’ve explored a lot, giggled a lot, shopped a lot and then; an epiphany occurs, that’s solely hers: I’m still new here; and a lot is a lot.

Repatriation thoughts….

Aloha,

Denise

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Sunny salutations 😎

A lady glides past the pool wearing a purple silk scarf, oversized sunglasses and a smile. Kids in the pool splashing, laughing, screaming, crying.  Swim camp, summer camp, college students, grandmas, new moms, soon-to-be moms, one or two elderly men. My view is charming, relaxing and invigorating. 

Sunny salutations from St. Louis County, MO! The summer renews my faith in repatriation and new places. As an Empty Nester,  I observe friends are harder to make and challenging to insinuate into their cliques. The pool is a friendly, neutral ground. As my mantra echoes in my head, “Never give up,” I chat with the scarf-head lady, sharing my magazine and exercise schedule, hoping to make another friend.

Share your smile. Be your awesome self. Enjoy the sun. Have FUN everyday!

Aloha,

Denise

See it and say it!

If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.

Validate others. Tell them they are doing a good job, they are beautiful, they are appreciated. People need and want acknowledgement.

I went up to the cash register to pay for my new summer sandals. The woman behind the desk had a beautiful smile and a cheery disposition. I told her! She smiled bigger, stood up taller and said, “Oh, thank you! For that, I’m going to give you 30% on your shoes. You made my day!!”  I didn’t expect that…but I’m grateful.

If you see goodness, speak your gratitude and acknowledgement.

Aloha,

Denise

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Summer 😎, Sunshine🌞, Smiles 😃!

Summer is officially here! I know because there are kids everywhere! School is out!  I see kids in summer camps, at the pools, on the roads and in the grocery stores with their parents.

What I’ve learned:  kids grow up and move away, jiffy quick. We only get to enjoy them for a short eighteen years. Many songs recount birth to school to college to weddings in three minutes, thirty seconds. My takeaway: Have FUN with them! Enjoy them. Make every event a life lesson and a memorable moment.

During these summer months, have FUN with your kids. Kiss them and hug them, cook with them, laugh with them and snap lots of photos. Enjoy them and make each day count.

What are your summer plans?

Shout out to Emily and Tara ~ my favorite kids on the planet ~ make this a wonderful Summer! ❤️

Aloha,

Denise