The skill of conversation

Many people enjoy the benefits and features of social media. I am one of those people. I connect with far away family and friends from different times in my life.  A big joy is having phone conversations with them, reading long hand-written letters, or, meeting in person*.

page two of a long hand-written letter from my friend since 1985


Whether meeting new friends on the world-wide-web or at a party, using words, hugs, events, and love enrich our lives. Words matter. YOU matter. I matter.



*save this thought for a future post.


Learning a new skill

Today the temperature is 28ºF, here in St. Charles.  There are white flakes falling cylindrically from the sky, covering the parked cars, the sidewalks, and streets.  I will learn a new skill today: driving in the snow.  This is my second winter in Missouri, and last year there was only a bit of snow and I chose to stay indoors. This year, however, I have to master the skill. I have an appointment and errands I must attend, so the lesson begins.

Thanks to friends for tips, and YouTube for videos, I’m ready.

Learn something every day!



Out our window, I see streets, cars, roofs blanketed in the snow AND it’s still coming down


Travel to celebrate

Board the plane, hop in the car, buckle up and go. Celebrate those you love.

Over the weekend, we traveled to Dallas, TX and joined hearts with family and life-long friends to celebrate my Mom: she turned 83 years young AND became a Bat Mitzvah and read Torah in public for the first time. This was a beautiful accomplishment and she made herself and me so proud. The celebration continued with a meal, singing, and lifting her on a chair (thanks to four strong men) to dance. My heart was (and still is) so full of love.











When someone you love has a celebration if at all possible, go, attend, join, and enjoy. As we get older, we don’t lose our friends, we find out who our real ones are. Travel to celebrate.

When things are good, celebrate.




What matters?

What matters to most people? Being loved, safe, happy, heard. How do you achieve this? I’m realizing that true conversations, while sometimes hard, are necessary, empowering, and challenging.

Speak your mind. Be gentle. Stay authentic. Share with grace. Never let the turkeys get you down. Never give up.



Travel: see your neighborhood, your city, your world. A great educator, traveling is seeing what others see and how they live. I’m grateful to travel and see friends and family in other places.

What matters to you?




















More sun & stories

These are a few of my favorite things: Sunshine, road trips, friends, trees, and positivity.

my friend Jenny and me enjoying the sunny morning as we walk on the Katy Trail
glorious sunshine entering our living room





On the way home from exploring the city, I missed my exit toward home and headed to the next state line (Illinois) by mistake. This is the second time I did that, so the lesson is now secure in my mind: stay in the middle of the two exit lanes to head West to the I-70.

The Gateway Arch coming into view
Gorgeous trees in colorful hues in Tower Grove East
This beautiful, stately, castle-like building is a high school




Learn by doing, learn from mistakes, learning is growing.



Painting or real life?

Looking out the window this morning looks more like a Bob Ross, Ansel Adams (albeit not in black & white), or Aaron Reed painting. There’s sun brightening the yellow trees, the pink hotel, the damp streets. I’m overjoyed to see the brilliance of the sun replace the clouds and heavy rains from yesterday. Momma Nature has provided stunning colors to my “backyard” view.

I’m grateful and memorizing the scenes because I know, soon enough, the trees will lose their leaves and I’ll have to wait until Spring to enjoy them again.

Weekend challenge: take a photo of your backyard view and share below. I want to see what you see.



Saturday morning “backyard” view 3 Nov 2018

Happy 🎃 Halloween, then and now

First, the history, according to

Halloween is an annual holiday celebrated each year on October 31, and Halloween 2018 occurs on Wednesday, October 31. It originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints; soon, All Saints Day incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before was known as All Hallows Eve, and later Halloween. Over time, Halloween evolved into a day of activities like trick-or-treating, carving jack-o-lanterns, festive gatherings, donning costumes and eating sweet treats.

Some nostalgia:

Tara (a baby) & Emily (a butterfly) 2002 in So. Cal.








Now the current:

I miss my girlz; the way they used to run to the next house their little feet barely touching the ground, and the parties we used to host. This empty nester mom is happy I was able to find two adorable kids in our building to bestow gifts upon. The weather has turned too, reminding me when I used to have to wear a coat over my costume, during the chilly nights in Dallas, TX. I hope everyone has fun tonight, stays safe, avoids tricks, and remembers the old days.

Aloha 🎃,